Hey South Florida grooms, today’s Love the View blog post is for you.
You picked the ring, researched the best way to propose, and she said yes. Congrats! You may think that your big part is over and all that is left is for you to do is show up on the big day and say I do. On the contrary, your bride-to-be needs your help. The fact is that grooms are getting more and more involved in the wedding planning process, so if you are unsure about groom duties & responsibilities, here is your wedding planning guide.
Getting Started With Wedding Planning
As a groom, it is vital to show interest and excitement for your upcoming wedding. Take the initiative and schedule a date night to start discussing the wedding planning roles and ideas. Your fiancee will be pleasantly surprised, and you can use this time to set your wedding budget to begin researching some wedding venues. One great tip by Nick Price of TriFocus Media is for you to both make a list of “must-haves” and “have nots.” This will help you both be on the same page and set realistic expectations.
Groom’s Duties & Responsibilities
In modern times, it is up to the couple to decide whose responsibilities should be what. With that being said, there are some general expectations as far as what the primary role of the groom will be during the wedding planning months.
Some duties & responsibilities can include:
- Help pick the wedding date
- Assist in setting and organizing the budget
- Choose the groomsmen
- Assist with choosing the wedding colors
- Make the appointment with tuxedo/suit shop or meet up with the groomsmen’s and shop for the suit
- Coordinate the transportation of the wedding party from the ceremony to reception
- Purchase bride gift
- Write wedding vows
- Purchase groomsmen gifts
- Help bride write the thank you cards
- Purchase the wedding bands
- Give rings and wedding bands to the best day on the day of the wedding
- Organize excel sheets for wedding seating and coordinating out of town family/guest arrivals
- Help package the goodie bags for guests or DIY wedding favors
- Make music lists for the DJ or band
- Arrange activities to entertain out of town wedding guests or family members
Groom’s Family Responsibilities
Traditionally, the groom’s family organizes and pays for the rehearsal dinner. If that is the case with your wedding, then help your family choose the location for dinner and ask if they need any other assistance. In the past, the groom’s family paid for the corsages, boutonnieres for immediate members of both families. They also have paid for the accommodations of the groomsmen. According to Martha Stewart Weddings: “In some circles, the groom’s family offsets reception expenses by purchasing the alcohol; in others, the groom’s family pays for all the floral expenses.”
More and more couples are paying for their weddings, and both the bride and groom’s family offer help in other areas such as:
- Narrowing down the wedding list
- Helping organize family members during family portraits on the wedding day
- Aid in bachelor party planning
Ultimately, it will be up to what either family offer to help, but setting these expectations from the get-go is critical.
Maybe you have not always dreamed about wedding planning, but with the right preparation, it can be a fun & stress-free experience. Overall this is a new life you are starting together and your first big project. It is important to collaborate and have open communication about roles, the groom’s responsibilities, and expectations. Planning the wedding together creates a great bonding experience and sets the mood for your new beginning.